Much Needed Update

 

I have been getting major blog anxiety because I am getting sooooo behind.  Life is busy.  Life is good.  So good, I don't want to forget it!  

I finally broke down and signed the kids up for soccer.  It was 6 weeks, and all 3 kids played at the same time.  Ty didn't play at all, which reaffirmed my decision to wait until the girls were older.  But the girls really enjoyed it and did really well.  I loved seeing their confidence bloom, and see them try so hard.  I'm really glad we did it, but I definitely won't put Ty back in for a year or two.  

At least he liked the cupcake.  : )

 

We moved!  (More on that later)  I was bound and determined to be the first one to use our new soaker tub, but alas, the girls beat me to it.

 

Hilary came to visit, and brought the stomach flu.  Thankfully, my mom was also here to take care of us!  And I never thought I would be glad for one of my kids to be sick, but it was sooo much easier to take care of Brandon because he was sick too, and just stayed in bed with me for a couple days.  

He is so cute here, I could cry.

 

We tried to get a good cousin pic... This one is the best.  But seriously... Why can't my oldest child pull through when everyone else does?!

 

Also tried to get a good shot with my mom.  

Fail.

 

At least 3 adults can manage to smile simultaneously!

 

We are LOVING our new house!  Most rooms are still works in progress, but here are a couple before and after shots.  We had the fireplace mantle and the kitchen cabinets painted.  I LOVE how it all looks.  

 

 

I have always wanted a white kitchen.  Keep dreaming folks, dreams come true!

 

This little guy decided to turn ONE!  He is sooo cute.  He finally has two little, bottom teeth.  He loves to dance and gives the wetest kisses ever.  

 

One of our worst attempts at a family picture, EVER!  So disappointing.  And in case you are wondering, skeleton shirts are still in style in June.

 

We succeeded at creating another child with a massive sweet tooth.  Brandon loved his birthday cake!  

 

My mom and Lynn treated our family to a trip to Lagoon.  It was sweltering hot, but the lines were super short!  We had a great day!

 

First taste of cotton candy.  

 

We totally wore Ty out!

 

My kids loved playing all the carnival games, and came home with quite a bag of loot!

 

Lynn and my bonus nephew, Jonas.  

 

The best part was how much the kids enjoyed the rides.

 

WHEW!

Father's Day!

Several week ago, my sister and I were discussing how being married to a loyal man, who loves you and your kids, and will raise them in the gospel, is really all you can ask for in this life.  Todd has done this, and so much more.  He gives his all to our marriage, to our kids, and to his career.  He works so hard for us, and is the best dad ever.  He is clobbered the second he walks in the door after work.  The kids can't wait til he is home, because that's when the fun starts!  He is always willing to get down and play, and can sense when someone needs a little more one on one time from him.  

I always knew that Todd would be a great dad, and it is so fun watching him be a dad.  I am filled with so much joy when I see his face light up when he holds a baby, or when I watch him walk into church holding hands with everyone, or when I watch him play catch at the park.  He is loving, kind, funny, energetic, patient, and creative in his parenting.  Our kids couldn't be blessed with a better dad.  

In the Spotlight

Tonight was the girls' ballet recital, and boy did they look grown up it all that make up!  I love watching them dance.  The best part of the night was when they each got to do an improvised solo.  I was backstage, just praying that Todd was recording it.  I about cried tears of joy when he told me he did!

Last recital we got in HUGE trouble for forgetting to buy the girls flowers.  Thank goodness we remembered this time!  Look at those smiles!  Totally worth it.

And since I never blog anymore, here are some other recent photos.  :)  Brandon turns ONE in about 10 days.  I can't believe it.  He is learning to walk, and loves to wave and clap.  He finally got his first tooth about two weeks ago, and he still doesn't sleep through the night.  Good thing he is so cute and fun!

Ty was actually asleep here!  That kid can sleep anywhere!

The kids started soccer!  It has been so fun!  Well, actually... Ty cries the whole time and barely plays.  But the girls are doing great, and I am really enjoying watching them.

Just hanging out on the piano.

Uma giving B-man his first taste of ice cream.  Of course he loved it!

Mother's day with my mom!  Sidenote, the cute heels I'm wearing used to be my grandma's.  

Apparently we like to put Brandon inside things....

After 7 years of not loving the paint color in our TV room, we finally painted it!  We get to enjoy it for about a week before we move into our new house, lol!  The girls were very eager to help.

Magsy's mask

Brandon sitting at the grown up table at IHOP.  Todd and I sat at the kid table with 5 other kids, but it was totally worth it to not have the baby for a while!  :)

Awards

I try not to push my kids too much.  I tell myself that things like awards and recognition really don't matter.  And they really don't.  It's just that when your kid gets an award, it feels like it really matters!  :)

Both of my girls were recognized at their school talent show for the awards they won in the PTA Reflections contest.

Bronwyn's DANCE won a Maple Grove award and a Regional Award.

Magdalen's STORY won a Maple Grove, Regional, and State Award.

Here they are getting their swag.  :)

When I picked the girls up from school, Bronwyn was a little bummed that Magdalen's project won state, and that Magdalen received a medallion, and Bronwyn didn't.  So I took Magsy aside before letting her in the van to explain that I was so super excited and proud of her, but that Bronwyn was feeling a little down, so I wasn't going to talk much about it in front of Bronwyn.  Well... as soon as we get into the van Magsy says to Bronwyn "Mom says you feel bad that you didn't get a medal".  

Well that backfired.

Magsy then proceeded to remind Bronwyn that she has lots of medals from Relay for Life, and that living through a brain tumor is a bigger deal than winning an award.

Neat perspective.  :)

Lucky 13

Today, the 13th of February, marks the 13th anniversary of my first kiss with Todd.  :)  Thirteen years ago, we said goodnight on the doorstep of the Sugar City house, and I was just begging for it.  I wanted him to kiss me sooooo bad!  After all, I had been stalking him for quite some time by then....

So in honor of 13 amazing years together, here is my top 13 list of how what I love about my hubby.

1.  He loves me.  Remember the stalking I just admitted to?  It's a lot less creepy since the feelings were mutual.  (HIMYM!)  The best thing about Todd is that he loves me back.  Our mutual love has created a wonderful life together.  Without it, I would just be another crazy girl, looking up a guy's schedule, and strategically placing myself around campus.

2. He supports everything I do and want.  I used to assume all marriages were like this, but now I know just how lucky I am.  When I told Todd I wanted to be a doula and work crazy hours, and have ALOT of people think I'm a total weirdo: He was all for it.  When I told him I wanted to add more to my already full plate and start teaching zumba, he said "do it!".  When I told him I wanted to start spending a lot more money on food and eat organically, he didn't bat an eyelash.  The man has literally never said "no" to me.

3. He can't stay mad at me.  (His words, not mine)  But since he is married to a girl who can hold on to a grudge like it's a baby about to fall off of a cliff, I'm pretty darn lucky.  It is quite nice to be with someone who can forgive and forget and put love first.  Hmmm....  I need to change my ways.

4.  He's the smartest person I know.  And I know a lot of smart people.  The best thing about Todd is that he is book smart and street smart.  He goes to work and makes tiny image sensors and all sorts of other hard things that I don't understand.  But then he can come home and understand the mysterious, inner workings of his wife and kids.  He can rip a book to shreds and find all the author's flaws.  He can see through propaganda and think for himself.  He does brain teasers for leisure activities, and I'm pretty sure he could teach my childbirth education class.  I like to remind him that I'm smart too, because sometimes I can feel like a total dummy with him!  The man understands EVERYTHING!

5.  He's romantic.   He set the bar pretty high by writing me a love song for our first Valentine's Day together!  He totally swept me off my feet, and continues to spoil me with hand written notes, flowers, music,  and jewelry.

6.  He's hilarious!  I can get too serious and stressed out, and Todd provides much needed comic relief in my life.  Sometimes his jokes are hard to catch because he is smart with them, and you have to really listen.  Other times, he can just quote a stupid movie and lighten the mood that way.  He keeps cracking me up and always keeps me smiling.

7.  He's cultured.  Our love of music is what brought us together.  I love that my husband wants to go to shows and concerts with me.  We either love it and enjoy it together, or come home and rip it apart.  We are total music snobs, and it's so fun!

8.  He changes poopy diapers.  Todd isn't one of those dads who assumes I will do all the dirty work.  I NEVER even change a diaper til we are home from the hospital.  He doesn't complain or try to get out of diaper duty.  (Just another flaw I have noticed in a lot of other men...)

9.  He's there for me.  Our life has been pretty crazy, especially since we added #4 to our crew.  I try to have our home somewhat organized and peaceful at night so Todd can relax after work, and so we can enjoy our evenings together.  That has not been the case lately, and I was apologizing for it several weeks ago.  Todd's response: "We're in this together, Marie".  It was just what I needed to hear.  Sometimes I feel like I have to carry all my burdens alone, but that isn't the case at all.  Todd has been there through every sleepless night, every heartache, every self-doubt, and every day in between.

10.  He loves being a dad.  When we were newlyweds, Todd would stare at the young families during sacrament meeting.  (I would stare too... in horror!)  He was eager and excited for parenthood, and he loves our children dearly.  He comes home and instantly starts entertaining, wrestling, reading, comforting, etc.  He takes pictures and writes in their journals.  He can tell when one of them needs more from us.  He takes them on dates and does science experiments.  He is the example of a loving, hands on dad.

11.  He loves his family, and mine.  I gave Todd a pretty hard time for being a mama's boy when we were dating.  That was stupid of me.  The relationship he has with his parents makes him who he is today.  The man I love!  He has also welcomed my family into his heart, and has never tried to make it difficult for me to see my family.

12.  He thinks in the long-term.  Todd has always worked hard to ensure a good future.  As a teenager he took AP classes, got great grades, served a mission, went to college.  He knew what needed to be done a young adult to be the kind of adult he wanted to be.  Now he works hard so his career can excel, and thinks about saving enough for retirement and for the kids.  He thinks through his options, and doesn't get distracted with short term solutions.

13.  He's a hottie!  It wouldn't really be a Valentine's day post, or an honest post, without me saying that my husband is a total hunk!  There's a reason I stalked him.  His tall athletic build, sparkling blue eyes, and genuine smile sent my hormones flying!

Happy 13th kissaversary, honey!  Everything about the last 13 years hasn't been good, but the kissing always has! :)  I love you!

I Do NOT Apologize for the Type of Mother I Am!

Two articles have been trending on my Facebook the last couple days.  One is about how the way we parent is totally screwing up our kids, and another is about how a woman was harassed for breastfeeding in public in (get this) Las Vegas.  (You know, the town known for valuing women for their minds and modesty.)  These two articles have put my mind in a tailspin of thoughts, feelings of defensiveness, sadness for the women and children involved, and so on.  So here are my two cents on the topic, because I care deeply about women and children.  (My house just so happens to be full of them.)

First of all, I will openly admit that my views of motherhood have changed alot over the years.  Before I had kids I didn't give much authentic thought on the subject, but tended to believe the things I heard.  I assumed a woman should wean her child at age one.  Nursing beyond the child's "need" was surely selfish.  I also thought women should nurse in private.  I'll even admit that when Todd and I were first married we had friends who had a baby, and she always nursed in front of us, and it totally made me feel weird.  I don't think I had EVER been with a woman while she nursed up until that point in my life.  And that, my friends, is the real issue.  We are so weird about nursing because we never see it.  If more women nursed, then it wouldn't be weird to see a nursing mom.

So weird about it, that some of us will ask a nursing woman to cover up, when 20 feet away there are Vegas girls dancing on a stage!  The thought is so ridiculous!  Oh, I'm sorry.  It is more offensive when a woman uses her breasts in a nonsexual way.  How dare she.  Doesn't she know that only sexual immodesty will be tolerated?  I would sooooooo much rather my husband look at a stripper than happen to glance upon a woman nursing her child.  The thought alone could practically ruin my marriage.  

Ok, second article.  In a nutshell says that our children are not learning empathy because we don't breastfeed, don't sleep with them, and don't respond to them when they cry.  And guess what.  I have been accused of doing ALL of those things.  I have nursed all 4 of my children, in public (gasp), have co-slept to varying degrees with all of them, and pretty much have held all four of them, all day, every day until they can walk.  And guess what....

For the most part, all of these activities were not only enjoyable for my babies, but for me as well.  

What the FREAK is wrong with the way we parent in America?  Why am I the weirdo for actually wanting physical closeness with my children?  And WHY  OH WHY do we need a scientific study to prove to us that we should be doing these things with out children?!  Where have our parenting instincts gone?!  

So now that there is proof behind my parenting, here is a list of things I will continue to do, 

WITHOUT APOLOGY!

1.  I will continue to nurse my baby in public.  

Part of me feels obligated to do so, just as a public outreach program, so that people see a woman breastfeed at some point in their life.  I will also do it because I have the right to shop, eat at a restaurant, fly on a plane, or attend a party, AND my child has the right to eat.  My baby can eat anywhere a bottle fed baby is allowed to dine.

2.  I will take my children shopping with me.

Don't get me wrong, shopping with children can be an absolute nightmare.  But it's just a reality for a young mom.  I have had several experiences where fellow shoppers have made it clear to me that my children are ruining their shopping experience.  (Have even had a woman look me in the eye and say "I hate when moms bring their kids to the store".)  Well guess what.  No one is more annoyed by my children than I am, so there!   It's not your problem to deal with, so walk away and forget about it.  And how about a little respect for those of us raising the next generation?  The human race won't exactly continue all on it's own.  Someday we will have to break down and admit that we need mothers.  

3.  I will refuse to share my baby with you.

I have gotten greedier with each of my children.  They grow up too fast, and there isn't enough time for everyone to enjoy them. They are mine, and I get first dibs.  If you really want to see my adorable baby (and you know you do) sit behind me in church, just don't ask me to pass him back.  My arms will be empty soon enough.

4.  I will continue to do whatever it takes to get some sleep at night.

One night when my second child was 2 months old, my husband came into our room to find me nursing while my baby and I slept.  He asked me how long I had been nursing.  I asked him what time it was.  Turns out I had been there for 3 hours.  I actually prefer not to have a baby in bed with me, but they are more than welcome to nurse all night if the alternative is walking the halls.  

5.  I will do things my way.

I used to wonder how everyone else was getting through their days with their young children.  I wanted to compare notes, and make sure I was "fitting in" and doing things right.  Now I do things how I want to.  I do what works for me.  It may not work for you.  You may think I am crazy.  I don't really care anymore.  :)

6.  I will inflate my children's self esteem.  

I will say and do whatever I can think of so that when the world beats down on my kids, they can come home and know that they are smart, funny, loved, beautiful, creative, athletic, special, amazing, courageous, and loved.  

7.  I will stay home to raise my family.

There are many who think that a college valedictorian is wasting her gifts by not working.  I used to worry that I would be judged for my decision.  Who knows, maybe I am.  But I will never apologize for putting my family first, and I am a million percent sure that I will never regret it.  

8.  I will not lie to my kids, and I will use real words.  Words like penis.

Anytime I hear someone say they told their kids that babies come out of their bellybuttons, I'm pretty sure a butterfly dies.  You may think I'm crazy, but my girls have not only seen me give birth, they knew the terms years before.  I don't want to have to go back and reteach something.  And what kind of message do we send when we lie to our kids about such important things?  

9.  I will listen politely to you, but I probably won't take your parenting advice.

Remember how I do things my way?  :)  I'm a hypocrite because I give unsolicited advice ALL.THE.TIME. Just one of those little things that make me, me.  

10.  I will continue to drive my minivan, and think that I look awesome in it.

You'll know me by the awesome bumper sticker that proudly states:

MOMS ROCK

I look awesome because driving a minivan means I have a crew to drive around all day.  And that makes me awesome.  

Bonus:  I will continue to dote on my children as much as I want.

According to science, it's the only way they will learn empathy.  So pucker up and give me a hug!